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07May/17

I FOUND A FULL CABINET OF MEDICINE (story)

Hurriedly, I strode to the door and wafted my fingers through the wind to clutch its handle. It was locked, and for a moment I thought all was lost. Devastated, I dropped my gaze and caught sight of an old latch immersed in decades of corrosion. With a prudent grasp, I gave it a deft pull to release the lock, and felt a wave of delight rasping through my spine as the metal door came open with my nudge. Then with tip-toe-footfalls I made my way into the foyer leading into the living room. I had not expected bickering or loud noises, for I was in my parent’s house, and my parents were old. But I did not expect the maddening silence either. I could have sworn not even insects were present; for the house was vacuum-empty.

 

I took a quick glance into the last room on the left, and, in stark realization that the house was indeed empty, I made back for the foyer as I placed a call. I shifted my sight onto my tablet’s keypad to type in father’s digits and kept on walking. I had a feeling of weightlessness, a sudden lurch and suddenly, I was skidding along the floor. I had tripped. In my wake I had left a terracotta vase flying, and its anchoring stool was skidding towards the wall. Vase shattered and a stool-limb fractured, I pulled my weight along the cement floor toward the drabbled flowers. Bouquet in hand, I billowed from the floor. I stopped short, half-erect, at a most shocking sight. There was a massive gap in the wall!

 

For long moments I mulled over the six-foot relief on the surface of what had seemed a normal cement wall. I had hoped to surprise my old parents with a visit, and yet at that particular period of time, I stood shocked to tatters. “This cannot be real”, I thought but I was certain my eyes were not failing. Stretching two quivering fingers I reached to the dent and swooped across its surface, then pressed both palms onto it with vehement force, almost losing my breath when it slid into an inward space. My heart leapt into my throat in plain horror of the sight before me: A secret chamber!

 

In staggering disbelief, at the threshold of the seemingly bottomless vault staring back at me, I wiped perspiration off my forehead. I was wary but nothing could have stopped me from exploring further and so, I arched my body forward, lofted my right foot, and, ever so warily, sifted through the chasm; dissolving into the darkness. Once inside, I was prey to whatever came next – evil, I thought. I had watched movies portray secret chambers in gory details. Swiping across the nearest wall for hope of any light switches, my fingers hit a plastic engraftment. I flicked it on and my sight fell on an unbelievably relieving spectacle. The room burgeoned with something hitherto hidden to me. Then with a knowing smile, I propped my face against trembling palms and mocking my self-induced terror, guffawed in exhilarating delight. It was no secret chamber after all; it was only a medicine cabinet!

02Apr/17

The importance of decluttering and how it change our life positively

Simplicity is about subtracting the obvious and adding the meaningful.” ~John Maeda, the Laws of Simplicity

Nearly everyone has this moment dawning upon him where they realize how cluttered their life is and how deeply they need decluttering. Everything that is constant but pointless needs to be detached for you to start a new beginning. Your life may seem perfect to an outsider, but personally, you feel stuck and frustrated; this is where decluttering comes in; it helps you organize your home in a way that makes you feel ecstatic in every way be it emotionally, spiritually, physically. It is a fact that cannot be denied that cluttering effects the overall flow of positive vibes throughout your home and your body. It is quite usual to feel held back by your environment. It can be a piece of furniture, an unfinished project, a broken vase that was a gift from someone close, a gift you have kept for someone “in case they pay you a visit,” even your old clothes, half used make-up. Everything that is there to bring back some old unpleasant feelings or is holding you back from doing something new and exciting is something that you have to declutter.

Set your priorities:

First and the foremost thing that you have to do is set your priorities, take actions for what is just a dream or desire that it is being postponed due to a family obligation or work. It is paramount for a positive life that you live stress-free and focused on what you are doing NOT on what you should be doing. It is a known fact that two physical objects cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Whenever it comes to a second choice we always have to choose between two things; either this or that. Same should be the case with your inner self; you must not keep two thoughts or duties in the same compartment of your brain not only will it confuse you but will stress you out to your core. No matter how much you change your surrounding, there will always come a moment where you will be contemplating on what you SHOULD BE doing instead of what you ARE doing. Make 2017 a clutter free year both physically and emotionally. Try to forgive and forget, move from negative thinking to positive thinking as both cannot co-exist. Set yourself free by choosing what you SHOULD do not what you are supposed to do.

One man’s trash is another man’s treasure:

Secondly start decluttering your shed or any storage place where you hide your “unwanted treasure.” Strat clearing out anything that is a burden on the space and clutter for your positive growth. Everything from a year old magazine, empty plastic cans, rusty tins of dried paints, an old rocking chair with a broken arm place, birdcages, declutter them all. It’s not necessary that you have to throw things away. You can always donate them to various charitable organizations which will not only declutter your space but will also give you this sense of profound joy of helping someone in need. As the saying goes “One man’s treasure is another man’s trash”; what is trash for you might be a bundle of joy for someone else.

Unconscious consumerism:

We all are guilty of unconscious consumerism, and this dawns upon us when we look at ourselves and see our space occupied by things that we rarely use and this sense of guilty engulfs us; takes away any bit of satisfaction we had while shopping. We are all so enamored by the innovations and updates in technology that yesterday’s breakthrough easily becomes tomorrow’s trash. So what you can do is get rid of all the old printers lining in the storage room because you got a newer much-updated version, a TV because you got a giant flat, rear projection television, or anything that is there unused since ages because you have got a replacement for that. Decluttering such valuable clutter is always hard, but nevertheless, you have to for a positive change in your life.

Sensibility vs. sentimentality: 

The life-enhancing energy called chi, according to the Chinese must flow freely in our homes, but it is normally blocked because of the presence of emotional, physical or spiritual clutter. So the first and foremost clutter that needs to be handled is the physical one as the physical opens the doors to the positive change to start. Invigorating and reorganizing your life is always a battle between sensibility vs. sentimentality. There are things that you are attached to and even though you are not using them for ages still have a spot in your heart where you regard them as treasure. It is this kind of pressure that blemishes your beginning of decluttering. Chi involves both the positive (yang) and the negative energy (yang). In order to bring a positive change, you obviously need to harness the positive energy, as stated above to (or “intending to”) harness the positive energy you need to declutter everything that sets you back to the past and blocks the way for positive vibes to flow in your space. Decluttering also does not mean that you should have empty spaces as nature despises vacuum; so instead of leaving you space empty it with light, plants, colors and everything that will bring in positivity.

Consult a specialist:

Let’s face it decluttering on your own can be a stressful, loathsome, and tiresome job. Well, why do it alone when you can have professionals for this job. Experts at abode staging will not only help you in decluttering but will also assist you with organizing and reconstructing your entire home. Professional organizers at abode staging will guide you from the very moment you decide to declutter and reorganize your home.

06Mar/17

How to deal with stuff after your parents die?

What can be more traumatic than dealing with your parent’s death is dealing with the stuff they have left. You can never be ready for disposing of their lifelong possessions, but you will have to at some point. Here are a few stages that you can consider that can help you ease the process and guide you to declutter efficiently after your parent’s death.

When to start dealing with your parent’s possessions:

Grief is an important process to heal after the loss of loved ones; it should not be rushed. Dealing with stuff has no right or wrong time. Let time heal you before you start dealing with your parent’s possessions.

For those who do not have the luxury of time to start, then you may find yourself in the middle of a whole range of emotions. This is precisely the time when your emotions may take hold of you so you must approach the process with a clear plan to keep you focused.

Inform your siblings, make a plan:

If you have siblings, it is better to let them know before you start decluttering, so that you may arrange a plan and a time frame. But if you are an only child, it would be a lot better to take someone close to you. Ultimately, this will help you stay focused and not let emotion take control.

Make a List:

Make a list that will help you prioritize:

  • Which part of the room/house you need to focus on
  • Who can help you sort out your parent’s belongings
  • What can you give away as a memento and who would be touched to have them
  • Decide the days that you think will be best for decluttering

Make preparations:

Materialistically, we recommend that you get the given below materials ready to make the process as streamlined as possible:

  • Markers
  • Boxes, storage containers, bags
  • Tape
  • Gloves and face masks (if there is any dusting required)
  • Stickers for labeling

However, going through your parent’s possessions is going to be a very emotional time. You need to be ready for the following

  • Be ready for a flood of memories
  • Expect a few surprises
  • Prepare for tears, sadness, and laughter
  • You may feel stuck and not able to continue. Know that this not unusual and that you do not have to rush if you are not ready
  • Don’t be hard on yourself, allow your tears to flow. The grief, regrets are all part of the process.

Furthermore, it is better to divide according to the basic strategy that is what you want to keep, donate, throw away, give away as a memento, and those items that you haven’t decided about yet. As a result, you will have a clear idea of what you plan to do, and the chances are that it might help in keeping your mind busy and less focused on your feelings.

Tackle the bigger mess first

What is the most challenging and frustrating area for you? Is it going through the mess of papers? A cluttered room or the storage room? Take baby steps to deal with the primary stress area. It is better that you start letting go of stuff that causes you the most stress and you will start feeling much better about the overall project.

There is a possibility that you may have to pay the bills as well so keep an eye on everything that is around you and try not to let emotions hinder the process.

Be easy on yourself:

You don’t have to resolve what to do with everything all at once. The fact is that it can be quite hard dealing with your parents’ lifetime possessions all at once.  Know that everyone one, every the most organized one have difficulty controlling their emotions. There will be highs and lows. Some days you will feel better and some not as much. Be aware of your feelings and don’t beat yourself up. It is always better to deal with stuff on days when you feel comparatively better.

Hire help:

Although you can sell your parents’ belongings all by yourself, in case you don’t have that luxury of time, you can always hire someone to help you in the process. Sort out the personal belongings and then bring in professionals who have experience in decluttering. Experts will help you liquidate households swiftly and without taking much of your time.

There is nothing wrong with designating stuff to stay for the short term. Getting rid of everything all at once is not healthy either. Everything has a value it can be monetary and even emotional. While dealing with your parents’ stuff, you can be overwhelmed in many ways. You can either get too isolated ultimately throwing away everything or too attached and keeping things that might clutter your home without giving you any value. So the line you will be walking is going to be fragile, and you need to be in all your senses while going through your parents’ stuff.

04Feb/17

How to deal with adult children at home

Parenting is never the same as our Kids grow up. There’s no more changing diapers and having to be in check for your Kids health and food. As our kids grow up, Parenting changes. There are no more shouting at Kids whenever they did something wrong or something that could hurt them so that they can learn a lesson, you don’t have to worry that much about the food and health of your child as you used to when your kids were young. So, with time Parenting changes too and It for sure is a challenging task, as they say, that Being Parents or Parenting is the most difficult task in the World.

With the World changing today, with its terms and cultures, our Adult kids are changing too. They demand different things that are getting normal or already are normal in today society or the world. So, Parenting with Adult kids get pretty much tough as Every decision or Every word out of your mouth can make a different impact or can have different effects on your kid. You never know how your Adult child would react to what you are saying so It kind of gets pretty hard and difficult in order to cope with them. You have to keep close attention to your Adult kids.

So, Dealing with Adult kids can be hectic but It can be pretty comforting too. Parents are happy and have been happy when their Adult kids are obedient, that is everything a Parent want. You might not have those day to day challenges anymore when your child was young but building a relationship with your Adult child can be pretty hard. There are different times or different moments that you have to act differently. So, Building a relationship with your child can be pretty difficult. In order to make this difficulty easy for you, We will be giving you some tips so that you can easily have a great relationship with your Adult child or there is comfort whenever you are dealing with your Adult child.

So, Let’s get started-

  1. Knowing them as Adults-

Kids or Children as they grow up have their own personality or they are new human beings now and you have to get to know them just as you want or are going to know strangers. When you meet with someone you get to know completely, their likes and dislikes. They aren’t kids or children that you used to guide them through things in life but they are now adults and they are completely different. So, In order to have a great and perfect relation with your Adult child, you have to know them completely.

  1. Don’t irritate them about Marriage and Kids-

Children as they grow up, get mature and mature and their thinking process or their thinking magnitude widens more and more so they are capable of making their own decisions and think for their own future. There is always time to get married and your child might be good looking and might have a great charisma which might make you wonder that why can’t your child have a girl or a boy or get settled. Well, your Adult child might have his or her own plans so you don’t have to bug them about Marriage and all. This might make them irritated and your child might have to distance yourself from you.

  1. Paying them?

Times are getting tougher and harder, everyone’s having a financial crisis, mostly and so it gets hard to manage your family. Your child might be living with you and it is getting more common now to be living with their parents. Now, if your kid or child is returning back to your home then it is time to set some ground rules. Curfews that you used to have won’t be applied now but in return, there should be some other things that you have to make sure that your child does it. Say, for example, make sure that your child pays utilities or buys groceries. Your child after growing up must help you out in these matters.

  1. Let them clean up their own mess-

As time flies as our children grow up, we don’t have the need to clean their rooms or their messes. They have to clean their mess themselves as Parents want their children to grow up quickly so that most of the responsibility that parents have is gone. You have to show them how things are done so that they are prepared for their life ahead. They for sure will love for you all the information or the doings that you would have taught which would end up being beneficial for them.

  1. Criticism-

Criticism is a vital portion of having a healthy relationship with your child. As said above, when our children grow up and when they are capable of doing things on their own, they have a strategy and they have doings and not doings of their own way and so criticism is something that children not always welcome and it often fires back.

Parents have to be very careful when it comes to criticizing their children. They might be dealing with matters completely different than you used and so there might arise a conflict in things the way you did and your children might do. There is no bad in this and so there is no right for Parents to criticize their way of doings. And if you do criticize your child, make sure it is a constructive criticism, not a harsh one that would make your child get angry and which could affect your relationship with your child.

So, the above we some tips or points that could make you have a great relationship with your child as children are the most important assets of Parents above anything and Parents love to have a great relationship with them. These points would help you get that relationship.

09Jan/17

The importance of decluttering and how it change our life positively

Simplicity is about subtracting the obvious and adding the meaningful.” ~John Maeda, the Laws of Simplicity

Nearly everyone has this moment dawning upon him where they realize how cluttered their life is and how deeply they need decluttering. Everything that is constant but pointless needs to be detached for you to start a new beginning. Your life may seem perfect to an outsider, but personally, you feel stuck and frustrated; this is where decluttering comes in; it helps you organize your home in a way that makes you feel ecstatic in every way be it emotionally, spiritually, physically. It is a fact that cannot be denied that cluttering effects the overall flow of positive vibes throughout your home and your body. It is quite usual to feel held back by your environment. It can be a piece of furniture, an unfinished project, a broken vase that was a gift from someone close, a gift you have kept for someone “in case they pay you a visit,” even your old clothes, half used make-up. Everything that is there to bring back some old unpleasant feelings or is holding you back from doing something new and exciting is something that you have to declutter.

Set your priorities:

First and the foremost thing that you have to do is set your priorities, take actions for what is just a dream or desire that it is being postponed due to a family obligation or work. It is paramount for a positive life that you live stress-free and focused on what you are doing NOT on what you should be doing. It is a known fact that two physical objects cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Whenever it comes to a second choice we always have to choose between two things; either this or that. Same should be the case with your inner self; you must not keep two thoughts or duties in the same compartment of your brain not only will it confuse you but will stress you out to your core. No matter how much you change your surrounding, there will always come a moment where you will be contemplating on what you SHOULD BE doing instead of what you ARE doing. Make 2017 a clutter free year both physically and emotionally. Try to forgive and forget, move from negative thinking to positive thinking as both cannot co-exist. Set yourself free by choosing what you SHOULD do not what you are supposed to do.

One man’s trash is another man’s treasure:

Secondly start decluttering your shed or any storage place where you hide your “unwanted treasure.” Strat clearing out anything that is a burden on the space and clutter for your positive growth. Everything from a year old magazine, empty plastic cans, rusty tins of dried paints, an old rocking chair with a broken arm place, birdcages, declutter them all. It’s not necessary that you have to throw things away. You can always donate them to various charitable organizations which will not only declutter your space but will also give you this sense of profound joy of helping someone in need. As the saying goes “One man’s treasure is another man’s trash”; what is trash for you might be a bundle of joy for someone else.

Unconscious consumerism:

We all are guilty of unconscious consumerism, and this dawns upon us when we look at ourselves and see our space occupied by things that we rarely use and this sense of guilty engulfs us; takes away any bit of satisfaction we had while shopping. We are all so enamored by the innovations and updates in technology that yesterday’s breakthrough easily becomes tomorrow’s trash. So what you can do is get rid of all the old printers lining in the storage room because you got a newer much-updated version, a TV because you got a giant flat, rear projection television, or anything that is there unused since ages because you have got a replacement for that. Decluttering such valuable clutter is always hard, but nevertheless, you have to for a positive change in your life.

Sensibility vs. sentimentality: 

The life-enhancing energy called chi, according to the Chinese must flow freely in our homes, but it is normally blocked because of the presence of emotional, physical or spiritual clutter. So the first and foremost clutter that needs to be handled is the physical one as the physical opens the doors to the positive change to start. Invigorating and reorganizing your life is always a battle between sensibility vs. sentimentality. There are things that you are attached to and even though you are not using them for ages still have a spot in your heart where you regard them as treasure. It is this kind of pressure that blemishes your beginning of decluttering. Chi involves both the positive (yang) and the negative energy (yang). In order to bring a positive change, you obviously need to harness the positive energy, as stated above to (or “intending to”) harness the positive energy you need to declutter everything that sets you back to the past and blocks the way for positive vibes to flow in your space. Decluttering also does not mean that you should have empty spaces as nature despises vacuum; so instead of leaving you space empty it with light, plants, colors and everything that will bring in positivity.

Consult a specialist:

Let’s face it decluttering on your own can be a stressful, loathsome, and tiresome job. Well, why do it alone when you can have professionals for this job. Experts at Abode Staging will not only help you in decluttering but will also assist you with organizing and reconstructing your entire home. Professional organizers at Abode HT Staging will guide you from the very moment you decide to declutter and reorganize your home.

Are you looking for help in downsizing? Are you looking for help in decluttering? Are you looking for home staging services? We can help. Contact us at 613-869-1590 or val@abodehtstaging.ca

26Oct/16

A Study In The Process Of Downsizing

There are many reasons why people downsize home. These include:

  • Your current home and garden may be too big and difficult to manage
  • You may have trouble with stairs and getting out and about
  • You want to reduce your bills like rising energy costs and day to day expenses
  • You may face large bills for repair and refurbishment of your home
  • You want to free up some money for yourself or for your children
  • You want to move somewhere that offers care, support and company
  • You want to move closer to your children and grandchildren

Despite all these reasons, many people put off making a decision about moving home until it is too late. While it is a big decision to downsize your home, taking this step is only the beginning. During the course of your downsizing move, you will have many critical decisions to make and countless arrangements to plan, organize and manage. It is likely and completely normal that you will feel very overwhelmed. You may even have no idea how or where to start. Nevertheless, rest assured that there is no need to do everything by yourself or impose on already busy family members and friends.

Are you unsure of what to keep, move or discard? The bottom line is that we have too many belongings. We’re a society of consumers. We do because we want our homes to look nice, because we inherit belongings, and simply because we can. The bigger the house, the more we fill it, right? One thing I must reinforce is to start thinking about what you want to get rid of long before the downsizing process starts. You can start by asking family and friends if they would like some of the items that you have or are interested in getting rid of. It’s easy if they live near you, but what if they live in another town, province or overseas? What will be the cost to get the items that might want delivered? Maybe you’re thinking about selling some of the items in question. There are different ways to do it.

A garage sale can be fun if you have lots of help from family and friends, but they are a lot of work and the rewards can be few. A successful garage sale involves endless organizing, including setting up a float and promoting your event. You must get up early to beat the dealers (5am) to get the items out ready for sale. A rush of keen people at first is usually followed by a long slow day. By the end of the day, you are exhausted and you may have made some money, but you need to be ready to go at daybreak for buyers the next day. And when it’s all over, you still have lot of things to get rid of… In the end, only you can decide if you are up for organizing and holding a garage sale. Because we are such a throwaway society, items that go to auction are not as valuable as they once were. Even with the most beautiful items, by the time the owner pays our delivery fee and the auction house takes its cut, the owners do not make much, if anything. The consignment boutique could be a better option if the owner delivers the item to the boutique themselves.

Many people achieve a great deal of success in selling their unwanted items online via eBay, Kijiji or Buy,Sell and Trade on Facebook. The benefit of using these forums is that stuff tends to move quickly if it is priced cheaply, and buyers are often willing to travel to you and will dismantle and load items themselves to grab a bargain. However, if you struggle with technology, going online is not always a great option. Donating goods to charities is honourable, but requires a lot of early organization. Charities are overrun at the moment, and if you have items to donate (and if they will indeed agree to take them), you need to give plenty of notice to book them to pick up your unwanted goods. In the end, sorting through and discarding your unwanted goods is a complicated and time-consuming task that you can do yourself or with the help of family and friends. However, sometimes it is easier and less stressful to get a professional in to see you through this difficult process. This is your move and it should be as stress-free as possible. Remember, the things that fill your home are just “goods” and it is better to hold on the years of happy memories you have associated with those, and let them go and allow someone else to gain pleasure from them.

Are you looking for help in downsizing? Are you looking for home staging services? We can help. Contact us at 613-869-1590 or val@abodehtstaging.ca
13Sep/16

Challenging time – L’aspect émotionnel du changement de domicile

Like all other important life changes, getting married, having children, switching  jobs, moving residences brings up a question of the unknown. What will the future be like? Downsizing and relocating introduce many challenges like to let go our belongings and to confront a very different living situation. Anything worth doing will have some form of anxiety attached to it. It is human nature to resist accepting the fact that as we age, we become less physically capable of taking care of some of the everyday tasks that used to be so easy to do. Having to accept a lifestyle change to accommodate this can be emotionally difficult and depressing because it is seen as a loss of independence. Separation from one’s lifelong home is a loss and should be treated as such. Turning to friends and family in a time of grief is common when one experiences a loss, so imparting a sense of family among residents and staff has proven quite comforting for those suffering the distress of moving. Unfortunately, those seniors who delay changing their lifestyle to accommodate their needs end up becoming even less independent, relying on family and friends to do what they are no longer able to do.

Moving into a retirement residence can be an intimidating life change. The upside is that most retirement communities recognize this apprehension and do their best to lessen the emotional stress that comes with a move. When seniors see the change after they move into a residence (busy with their peers and entertained year round), they find they are much happier than they expected to be. Living in a retirement community can help alleviate boredom, loneliness and time to worry. A happier life is a healthier life. As a home transition specialist, I will assist in easing a seemingly stressful lifestyle change to make a smooth and stress-free transition for many years of good living.


Comme tout changement important dans la vie, se marier, avoir des enfants, changer d’emploi, changer de domicile soulève beaucoup de questions relatives à l’inconnu. Qu’est-ce que l’avenir nous réserve?  Déménager soulève plusieurs défis tels que laisser aller certains de nos objets et se préparer à un style de vie très différent. Peu importe ce que vous faites… il y aura de l’anxiété. C’est la nature humaine que de s’opposer et de résister aux changements. Un jour, nos capacités physiques diminuent et nous empêchent de faire tout ce dont nous avions l’habitude de faire aisément. Lorsqu’un changement de style de vie est nécessaire, c’est difficile émotionnellement et cela peut entraîner une humeur dépressive due à la perte d’autonomie et d’indépendance. Quitter l’endroit où nous avons vécu des décennies doit être traité comme un deuil. Se tourner vers nos amis et notre famille peut être réconfortant, mais en parler avec d’autres résidents qui ont vécu le même deuil peut nous rassurer et créer des liens importants. Malheureusement, les gens qui attendent trop longtemps avant de changer de domicile et de modifier leur style de vie adapté à leur nouveaux besoins et capacités diminuées, perdent leur autonomie beaucoup plus rapidement et deviennent dépendants des membres de leur famille pour tout ce qu’ils ne sont plus capable de faire.

Emménager dans une résidence pour personnes âgées peut être un changement intimidant. La majorité des résidence reconnaissent l’appréhension des nouveaux résidents et ils font leur possible pour faciliter la transition en essayant de réduire le stress émotionnel. Quelques temps après, il est fréquent que les personnes âgées réalisent qu’elles sont plus heureuses qu’elles pensaient l’être depuis qu’elles sont à la résidence. Elles socialisent plus et participent à plusieurs activités. Vivre dans une communauté, dans une résidence, peut aider à combattre l’ennui, la solitude et l’anxiété. Une vie plus heureuse est une vie en meilleure santé. Comme spécialiste en relocation, je vais vous assister pour rendre votre transition la plus simple et la moins stressante possible, afin que vous puissiez avoir le meilleur début pour votre nouveau segment de vie.

06Sep/16

Life is beautiful! – La vie est merveilleuse!

After my husband joined the military, I had to learn how to live with a lot of “unknowns”, such as not knowing when I’d hear from him, when he’d come home or when and where we’d move next. That’s when I first started the de-cluttering process. I had plenty of evenings alone to think and knew that the next move could happen any time so I had to be ready.

Military life has brought us to relocate frequently and I’ve become quite the expert at decluttering and downsizing. I’ve tried it all and would love to share my knowledge with you. To broaden my knowledge, I’ve also taken a course in Home Staging.

Frequent military relocations also come with new opportunities, new friends, and most importantly, new communities and a support system. Other military spouses have come through for me, helped with my boys and cheered me up when I was overwhelmed. If you are looking to relocate to a residence, integrating yourself into your new community is fundamental.

In short, I have learned that life is pretty amazing and beautiful even through daily struggles and challenges. Half the battle is how you approach your challenge. For smooth sailing, surround yourself with the right support.


Ma deuxième leçon, après que mon conjoint se soit enrollé, a été d’apprendre à vivre avec l’insécurité, ne sachant pas quand il pourrait téléphoner et encore moins, venir faire un tour à la maison. La possibilité de déménager étant dans l’air, mais ne sachant guère quand ou vers quel endroit. J’ai donc utilisé ces longues soirées seules à passer à travers mes livres d’université, puis le bricolage…. C’était mes premiers pas dans l’apprentissage du désencombrement. La vie militaire m’a incité à déménager fréquemment et je suis rendue habile à désencombrer et habituée à la relocation. J’ai tout expérimenté et maintenant je désire partager mes connaissances avec  vous. J’habite maintenant Ottawa et j’ai décidé de me spécialiser encore plus en suivant une formation en « Home staging ».

Être une famille de militaire amène plusieurs défis mais aussi beaucoup un sens de la communauté extraordinaire. Chaque fois que nous sommes arrivés dans une nouvelle ville, nous nous sommes fait de nouveaux amis qui sont venus m’aider lorsque j’en avais le plus besoin. J’ai compris comment l’amitié et le sens de la communauté est important. Malgré l’angoisse qui précède une relocation, aujourd’hui je suis bien et je sais que je le serai tant que je m’intégrerai à ma nouvelle communauté. Si vous déménagez en résidence, intégrez-vous le plus rapidement possible à votre nouvelle communauté car cela en vaut vraiment la peine.

Brièvement, j’ai appris dans les 10 dernières années, que je suis capable de faire des choses extraordinaire et que la vie est merveilleuse et belle malgré les difficultés sporadiques.

23Aug/16

Life is full of surprises! – La vie déborde de surprises!

For his first 3 years of military service, my husband was pretty much gone all the time… With two boys and a house, I quickly came to the conclusion that everything fell on my lap and I was on double duty. You should have seen me the first time I had to catch a rodent in the house. It was just a few days after he had left and I found myself jumping on a chair but then realized that I was in charge and had to take care of this! My first thought was to grab a bucket and try to catch it. Well that in itself was hilarious but then I thought to myself, what am I going to do with it once it’s under the bucket? How could I grab the rat? What would I do with it? Should I kill it or release it outside? Well, needless to say, that was quite an experience. Little did I know that 3 years later, our family would have three pet rats and I took great pleasure in playing with them.

Life is not always easy. Sometimes it’s difficult and these are usually times when we end up doing things out of necessity and not as we could ever have planned to.  Having to downsize and to relocate is one of those. Always keep in mind that even though this transition is difficult, people usually realize a few months down the road that it was for the best.


La vie déborde de surprises!

Lorsque mon époux a joint les Forces, il a été absent la majorité du temps pendant presque 3 ans. À l’époque j’avais 2 garçons (2 ans et 6 ans) et une maison… j’ai rapidement compris que je devais maintenant prendre en charge mes tâches et celles de mon époux. Vous auriez dû me voir quelques jours après son départ lorsqu’un rat est entré au sous-sol… dans la salle de jeu des enfants… J’ai grimpé sur une chaise avant de réaliser que c’était maintenant à moi d’attraper ce rongeur. J’ai pris un sceau et essayé d’attraper la bestiole au milieu des jouets… c’était hilarant !!!  Mais une fois le rat sous la chaudière, que faire ? Comment attraper le rat sans qu’il s’enfui à nouveau et encore pire…. Sans le toucher ! Dois-je le tuer ou le ramener dehors ? Oh mon Dieu, ce fut tout une expérience. Pouvez-vous imaginer que 3 ans plus tard, nous avions 3 rats de compagnie que je laissais libres dans la maison et que l’ensemble de la famille avait du plaisir avec !!!

La vie nous positionne dans des situations impossibles, imprévues et non désirées, mais notre nature humaine nous pousse à réussir ces épreuves et à en sortir grandi. Avoir à déménager est une de ces épreuves et c’est possible de passer à travers et de se rendre compte par la suite, que c’était pour le mieux.

16Aug/16

Why it’s important to have someone help you – Pourquoi l’accompagnement est-it important?

Moving from a large home full of your belongings to a smaller place can be tricky.  It’s easy to say “just get rid of that stuff”, but to actually do it is much harder. Unfortunately, many people downsize or relocate not by choice but because they have to. It’s natural to feel uncomfortable and afraid or anxious. It’s a little like trying to lose weight or to start a new fitness program. Without the right support, it’s easy to lose motivation and sometimes, the only way to get results is with the help of a coach. You don’t have to do this alone!

Downsizing can be stressful, but with the right kind of help it can become an experience you wish you would have done sooner. Relocation professionals, who are skilled on the emotional and practical aspect of the move, will off-load tasks and this will free up some time for you to concentrate on other important aspects of moving.

Deciding what to do with your things, whether it’s to sell, donate, or throw away is stressful, time consuming and emotionally draining. It’s easier to choose what you absolutely want to keep and outsource the “estate sale” task. Funds from the estate sale can be used to buy things that are more appropriate for your new place.


Pourquoi l’accompagnement est important?

Déménager d’une grosse maison vers un condo ou encore d’un appartement vers une résidence n’est pas une étape évidente dans la vie. Il est facile de dire « Fais juste te débarrasser de ces choses-là » mais le faire est extrêmement plus difficile. Malheureusement, plusieurs personnes attendent trop longtemps et se retrouvent dans une situation où ils ne déménagent plus par choix, mais parcequ’ils sont forcés de le faire. C’est tout à fait naturel de se sentir inconfortable et angoissé face à un déménagement. Tout comme perdre du poids ou commencer un programme d’exercice, il est facile de perdre notre motivation. Souvent, nous avons besoin d’un entraineur pour obtenir des résultats. Vous n’avez pas à entreprendre vos démarches de relocation seul.

Les professionnels de la relocation vont vous décharger de certaines tâches, ce qui vous permettra de vous concentrer sur d’autres aspects importants de votre déménagement. Ils sont habilles à gérer les relocations, tant sur le plan émotionnel que « pratico pratique ». Être conseillé et supporté peut rendre un changement de domicile beaucoup plus simple. Déménager dans une habitation plus petite peut être « l’enfer » mais bien accompagné, ça peut devenir une expérience dont vous souhaiteriez avoir accompli avant. Pas besoin de tout faire par vous-même ou d’imposer cela à des membres de votre famille qui sont déjà surchargés avec leur vie, vous pouvez bénéficier de l’expérience et de la disponibilité de professionnels. Commencez dès aujourd’hui en me contactant pour réserver votre consultation gratuite.

Choisir ce que nous allons faire de nos biens, que ce soit les donner, les vendre, les jeter ou les apporter avec nous est un moment stressant qui prend beaucoup de temps et d’énergie. Il est plus facile de se mettre à la tâche en commençant par choisir ce que nous voulons absolument garder. Vous pouvez ensuite réduire votre fardeau en engageant des professionnels de la relocation et/ou de la vente de bien. Le plus d’argent vous amasserez en vendant vos biens, plus vous pourrez vous acheter d’items proportionnés à votre nouveau domicile.