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07May/17

I FOUND A FULL CABINET OF MEDICINE (story)

Hurriedly, I strode to the door and wafted my fingers through the wind to clutch its handle. It was locked, and for a moment I thought all was lost. Devastated, I dropped my gaze and caught sight of an old latch immersed in decades of corrosion. With a prudent grasp, I gave it a deft pull to release the lock, and felt a wave of delight rasping through my spine as the metal door came open with my nudge. Then with tip-toe-footfalls I made my way into the foyer leading into the living room. I had not expected bickering or loud noises, for I was in my parent’s house, and my parents were old. But I did not expect the maddening silence either. I could have sworn not even insects were present; for the house was vacuum-empty.

 

I took a quick glance into the last room on the left, and, in stark realization that the house was indeed empty, I made back for the foyer as I placed a call. I shifted my sight onto my tablet’s keypad to type in father’s digits and kept on walking. I had a feeling of weightlessness, a sudden lurch and suddenly, I was skidding along the floor. I had tripped. In my wake I had left a terracotta vase flying, and its anchoring stool was skidding towards the wall. Vase shattered and a stool-limb fractured, I pulled my weight along the cement floor toward the drabbled flowers. Bouquet in hand, I billowed from the floor. I stopped short, half-erect, at a most shocking sight. There was a massive gap in the wall!

 

For long moments I mulled over the six-foot relief on the surface of what had seemed a normal cement wall. I had hoped to surprise my old parents with a visit, and yet at that particular period of time, I stood shocked to tatters. “This cannot be real”, I thought but I was certain my eyes were not failing. Stretching two quivering fingers I reached to the dent and swooped across its surface, then pressed both palms onto it with vehement force, almost losing my breath when it slid into an inward space. My heart leapt into my throat in plain horror of the sight before me: A secret chamber!

 

In staggering disbelief, at the threshold of the seemingly bottomless vault staring back at me, I wiped perspiration off my forehead. I was wary but nothing could have stopped me from exploring further and so, I arched my body forward, lofted my right foot, and, ever so warily, sifted through the chasm; dissolving into the darkness. Once inside, I was prey to whatever came next – evil, I thought. I had watched movies portray secret chambers in gory details. Swiping across the nearest wall for hope of any light switches, my fingers hit a plastic engraftment. I flicked it on and my sight fell on an unbelievably relieving spectacle. The room burgeoned with something hitherto hidden to me. Then with a knowing smile, I propped my face against trembling palms and mocking my self-induced terror, guffawed in exhilarating delight. It was no secret chamber after all; it was only a medicine cabinet!

04Feb/17

How to deal with adult children at home

Parenting is never the same as our Kids grow up. There’s no more changing diapers and having to be in check for your Kids health and food. As our kids grow up, Parenting changes. There are no more shouting at Kids whenever they did something wrong or something that could hurt them so that they can learn a lesson, you don’t have to worry that much about the food and health of your child as you used to when your kids were young. So, with time Parenting changes too and It for sure is a challenging task, as they say, that Being Parents or Parenting is the most difficult task in the World.

With the World changing today, with its terms and cultures, our Adult kids are changing too. They demand different things that are getting normal or already are normal in today society or the world. So, Parenting with Adult kids get pretty much tough as Every decision or Every word out of your mouth can make a different impact or can have different effects on your kid. You never know how your Adult child would react to what you are saying so It kind of gets pretty hard and difficult in order to cope with them. You have to keep close attention to your Adult kids.

So, Dealing with Adult kids can be hectic but It can be pretty comforting too. Parents are happy and have been happy when their Adult kids are obedient, that is everything a Parent want. You might not have those day to day challenges anymore when your child was young but building a relationship with your Adult child can be pretty hard. There are different times or different moments that you have to act differently. So, Building a relationship with your child can be pretty difficult. In order to make this difficulty easy for you, We will be giving you some tips so that you can easily have a great relationship with your Adult child or there is comfort whenever you are dealing with your Adult child.

So, Let’s get started-

  1. Knowing them as Adults-

Kids or Children as they grow up have their own personality or they are new human beings now and you have to get to know them just as you want or are going to know strangers. When you meet with someone you get to know completely, their likes and dislikes. They aren’t kids or children that you used to guide them through things in life but they are now adults and they are completely different. So, In order to have a great and perfect relation with your Adult child, you have to know them completely.

  1. Don’t irritate them about Marriage and Kids-

Children as they grow up, get mature and mature and their thinking process or their thinking magnitude widens more and more so they are capable of making their own decisions and think for their own future. There is always time to get married and your child might be good looking and might have a great charisma which might make you wonder that why can’t your child have a girl or a boy or get settled. Well, your Adult child might have his or her own plans so you don’t have to bug them about Marriage and all. This might make them irritated and your child might have to distance yourself from you.

  1. Paying them?

Times are getting tougher and harder, everyone’s having a financial crisis, mostly and so it gets hard to manage your family. Your child might be living with you and it is getting more common now to be living with their parents. Now, if your kid or child is returning back to your home then it is time to set some ground rules. Curfews that you used to have won’t be applied now but in return, there should be some other things that you have to make sure that your child does it. Say, for example, make sure that your child pays utilities or buys groceries. Your child after growing up must help you out in these matters.

  1. Let them clean up their own mess-

As time flies as our children grow up, we don’t have the need to clean their rooms or their messes. They have to clean their mess themselves as Parents want their children to grow up quickly so that most of the responsibility that parents have is gone. You have to show them how things are done so that they are prepared for their life ahead. They for sure will love for you all the information or the doings that you would have taught which would end up being beneficial for them.

  1. Criticism-

Criticism is a vital portion of having a healthy relationship with your child. As said above, when our children grow up and when they are capable of doing things on their own, they have a strategy and they have doings and not doings of their own way and so criticism is something that children not always welcome and it often fires back.

Parents have to be very careful when it comes to criticizing their children. They might be dealing with matters completely different than you used and so there might arise a conflict in things the way you did and your children might do. There is no bad in this and so there is no right for Parents to criticize their way of doings. And if you do criticize your child, make sure it is a constructive criticism, not a harsh one that would make your child get angry and which could affect your relationship with your child.

So, the above we some tips or points that could make you have a great relationship with your child as children are the most important assets of Parents above anything and Parents love to have a great relationship with them. These points would help you get that relationship.

13Sep/16

Challenging time – L’aspect émotionnel du changement de domicile

Like all other important life changes, getting married, having children, switching  jobs, moving residences brings up a question of the unknown. What will the future be like? Downsizing and relocating introduce many challenges like to let go our belongings and to confront a very different living situation. Anything worth doing will have some form of anxiety attached to it. It is human nature to resist accepting the fact that as we age, we become less physically capable of taking care of some of the everyday tasks that used to be so easy to do. Having to accept a lifestyle change to accommodate this can be emotionally difficult and depressing because it is seen as a loss of independence. Separation from one’s lifelong home is a loss and should be treated as such. Turning to friends and family in a time of grief is common when one experiences a loss, so imparting a sense of family among residents and staff has proven quite comforting for those suffering the distress of moving. Unfortunately, those seniors who delay changing their lifestyle to accommodate their needs end up becoming even less independent, relying on family and friends to do what they are no longer able to do.

Moving into a retirement residence can be an intimidating life change. The upside is that most retirement communities recognize this apprehension and do their best to lessen the emotional stress that comes with a move. When seniors see the change after they move into a residence (busy with their peers and entertained year round), they find they are much happier than they expected to be. Living in a retirement community can help alleviate boredom, loneliness and time to worry. A happier life is a healthier life. As a home transition specialist, I will assist in easing a seemingly stressful lifestyle change to make a smooth and stress-free transition for many years of good living.


Comme tout changement important dans la vie, se marier, avoir des enfants, changer d’emploi, changer de domicile soulève beaucoup de questions relatives à l’inconnu. Qu’est-ce que l’avenir nous réserve?  Déménager soulève plusieurs défis tels que laisser aller certains de nos objets et se préparer à un style de vie très différent. Peu importe ce que vous faites… il y aura de l’anxiété. C’est la nature humaine que de s’opposer et de résister aux changements. Un jour, nos capacités physiques diminuent et nous empêchent de faire tout ce dont nous avions l’habitude de faire aisément. Lorsqu’un changement de style de vie est nécessaire, c’est difficile émotionnellement et cela peut entraîner une humeur dépressive due à la perte d’autonomie et d’indépendance. Quitter l’endroit où nous avons vécu des décennies doit être traité comme un deuil. Se tourner vers nos amis et notre famille peut être réconfortant, mais en parler avec d’autres résidents qui ont vécu le même deuil peut nous rassurer et créer des liens importants. Malheureusement, les gens qui attendent trop longtemps avant de changer de domicile et de modifier leur style de vie adapté à leur nouveaux besoins et capacités diminuées, perdent leur autonomie beaucoup plus rapidement et deviennent dépendants des membres de leur famille pour tout ce qu’ils ne sont plus capable de faire.

Emménager dans une résidence pour personnes âgées peut être un changement intimidant. La majorité des résidence reconnaissent l’appréhension des nouveaux résidents et ils font leur possible pour faciliter la transition en essayant de réduire le stress émotionnel. Quelques temps après, il est fréquent que les personnes âgées réalisent qu’elles sont plus heureuses qu’elles pensaient l’être depuis qu’elles sont à la résidence. Elles socialisent plus et participent à plusieurs activités. Vivre dans une communauté, dans une résidence, peut aider à combattre l’ennui, la solitude et l’anxiété. Une vie plus heureuse est une vie en meilleure santé. Comme spécialiste en relocation, je vais vous assister pour rendre votre transition la plus simple et la moins stressante possible, afin que vous puissiez avoir le meilleur début pour votre nouveau segment de vie.

31Mar/16

The Good Companions- MIFO

Good Companions began in 1955 with the needs of the community seniors in mind. They wanted to create a place where our older generation could come together with others in the same predicament. Due in part to the generosity of the Province of Ontario, the City of Ottawa and multiple donors they have been able to offer a multitude of services and programs to the community.

Good Companions gives our elders a place to get a healthy meal at a reasonable price and they organize recreational outings, so that their clients can get out of the house and have a chance to socialize. Thanks go out to all the staff and volunteers that give of their time to make this a fun and safe place for our precious seniors.


MIFO – Mouvement d’Implication Francophone d’Orleans

Le plus grand centre culturel franco-ontarien

La mission du MIFO est de promouvoir la culture francophone et de répondre aux besoins artistiques, culturels, socio-communautaire et éducatifs de la communauté francophone d’Orléans et de ses environs.

Ils offrent plusieurs services et programmes, dont des services de garde d’enfants, des camps, des spectacles, des ressources pour les artistes et une école de musique pour tous les âges.  

Le Centre Séraphin-Marion d’Orléans est un lieu de rencontres, de renseignements et d’activités pour personnes de 50 ans et plus. Ce centre offre aux retraités et semi-retraités des activités leurs permettant de se rencontrer, de s’épanouir et de vieillir en santé dans un milieu francophone.

Un de leurs objectifs est d’analyser les besoins et intérêts des personnes de 50 ans et plus afin :

–  d’offrir des activités et des services, en français, qui favorisent leur bien-être, et ce, en accordant la priorité aux activités et aux services les plus demandés;

–  de rendre ces activités accessibles au plus grand nombre possible, en portant une attention particulière à celles dont le taux de participation est très bas;

– de développer l’habileté, la créativité et la sociabilité chez les personnes de 50 ans et plus, et ce, afin de leur permettre de maintenir leur autonomie à domicile le plus longtemps possible.

Pour de plus amples informations:

  • www.mifo.ca
  • Adresse: 6600 Carrière St, Orléans, ON K1C
  • Téléphone: (613) 830-6436