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Hurriedly, I strode to the door and wafted my fingers through the wind to clutch its handle. It was locked, and for a moment I thought all was lost. Devastated, I dropped my gaze and caught sight of an old latch immersed in decades of corrosion. With a prudent grasp, I gave it a deft pull to release the lock, and felt a wave of delight rasping through my spine as the metal door came open with my nudge. Then with tip-toe-footfalls I made my way into the foyer leading into the living room. I had not expected bickering or loud noises, for I was in my parent’s house, and my parents were old. But I did not expect the maddening silence either. I could have sworn not even insects were present; for the house was vacuum-empty.


I took a quick glance into the last room on the left, and, in stark realization that the house was indeed empty, I made back for the foyer as I placed a call. I shifted my sight onto my tablet’s keypad to type in father’s digits and kept on walking. I had a feeling of weightlessness, a sudden lurch and suddenly, I was skidding along the floor. I had tripped. In my wake I had left a terracotta vase flying, and its anchoring stool was skidding towards the wall. Vase shattered and a stool-limb fractured, I pulled my weight along the cement floor toward the drabbled flowers. Bouquet in hand, I billowed from the floor. I stopped short, half-erect, at a most shocking sight. There was a massive gap in the wall!


For long moments I mulled over the six-foot relief on the surface of what had seemed a normal cement wall. I had hoped to surprise my old parents with a visit, and yet at that particular period of time, I stood shocked to tatters. “This cannot be real”, I thought but I was certain my eyes were not failing. Stretching two quivering fingers I reached to the dent and swooped across its surface, then pressed both palms onto it with vehement force, almost losing my breath when it slid into an inward space. My heart leapt into my throat in plain horror of the sight before me: A secret chamber!


In staggering disbelief, at the threshold of the seemingly bottomless vault staring back at me, I wiped perspiration off my forehead. I was wary but nothing could have stopped me from exploring further and so, I arched my body forward, lofted my right foot, and, ever so warily, sifted through the chasm; dissolving into the darkness. Once inside, I was prey to whatever came next – evil, I thought. I had watched movies portray secret chambers in gory details. Swiping across the nearest wall for hope of any light switches, my fingers hit a plastic engraftment. I flicked it on and my sight fell on an unbelievably relieving spectacle. The room burgeoned with something hitherto hidden to me. Then with a knowing smile, I propped my face against trembling palms and mocking my self-induced terror, guffawed in exhilarating delight. It was no secret chamber after all; it was only a medicine cabinet!


How to deal with adult children at home

Parenting is never the same as our Kids grow up. There’s no more changing diapers and having to be in check for your Kids health and food. As our kids grow up, Parenting changes. There are no more shouting at Kids whenever they did something wrong or something that could hurt them so that they can learn a lesson, you don’t have to worry that much about the food and health of your child as you used to when your kids were young. So, with time Parenting changes too and It for sure is a challenging task, as they say, that Being Parents or Parenting is the most difficult task in the World.

With the World changing today, with its terms and cultures, our Adult kids are changing too. They demand different things that are getting normal or already are normal in today society or the world. So, Parenting with Adult kids get pretty much tough as Every decision or Every word out of your mouth can make a different impact or can have different effects on your kid. You never know how your Adult child would react to what you are saying so It kind of gets pretty hard and difficult in order to cope with them. You have to keep close attention to your Adult kids.

So, Dealing with Adult kids can be hectic but It can be pretty comforting too. Parents are happy and have been happy when their Adult kids are obedient, that is everything a Parent want. You might not have those day to day challenges anymore when your child was young but building a relationship with your Adult child can be pretty hard. There are different times or different moments that you have to act differently. So, Building a relationship with your child can be pretty difficult. In order to make this difficulty easy for you, We will be giving you some tips so that you can easily have a great relationship with your Adult child or there is comfort whenever you are dealing with your Adult child.

So, Let’s get started-

  1. Knowing them as Adults-

Kids or Children as they grow up have their own personality or they are new human beings now and you have to get to know them just as you want or are going to know strangers. When you meet with someone you get to know completely, their likes and dislikes. They aren’t kids or children that you used to guide them through things in life but they are now adults and they are completely different. So, In order to have a great and perfect relation with your Adult child, you have to know them completely.

  1. Don’t irritate them about Marriage and Kids-

Children as they grow up, get mature and mature and their thinking process or their thinking magnitude widens more and more so they are capable of making their own decisions and think for their own future. There is always time to get married and your child might be good looking and might have a great charisma which might make you wonder that why can’t your child have a girl or a boy or get settled. Well, your Adult child might have his or her own plans so you don’t have to bug them about Marriage and all. This might make them irritated and your child might have to distance yourself from you.

  1. Paying them?

Times are getting tougher and harder, everyone’s having a financial crisis, mostly and so it gets hard to manage your family. Your child might be living with you and it is getting more common now to be living with their parents. Now, if your kid or child is returning back to your home then it is time to set some ground rules. Curfews that you used to have won’t be applied now but in return, there should be some other things that you have to make sure that your child does it. Say, for example, make sure that your child pays utilities or buys groceries. Your child after growing up must help you out in these matters.

  1. Let them clean up their own mess-

As time flies as our children grow up, we don’t have the need to clean their rooms or their messes. They have to clean their mess themselves as Parents want their children to grow up quickly so that most of the responsibility that parents have is gone. You have to show them how things are done so that they are prepared for their life ahead. They for sure will love for you all the information or the doings that you would have taught which would end up being beneficial for them.

  1. Criticism-

Criticism is a vital portion of having a healthy relationship with your child. As said above, when our children grow up and when they are capable of doing things on their own, they have a strategy and they have doings and not doings of their own way and so criticism is something that children not always welcome and it often fires back.

Parents have to be very careful when it comes to criticizing their children. They might be dealing with matters completely different than you used and so there might arise a conflict in things the way you did and your children might do. There is no bad in this and so there is no right for Parents to criticize their way of doings. And if you do criticize your child, make sure it is a constructive criticism, not a harsh one that would make your child get angry and which could affect your relationship with your child.

So, the above we some tips or points that could make you have a great relationship with your child as children are the most important assets of Parents above anything and Parents love to have a great relationship with them. These points would help you get that relationship.


Challenging time – L’aspect émotionnel du changement de domicile

Like all other important life changes, getting married, having children, switching  jobs, moving residences brings up a question of the unknown. What will the future be like? Downsizing and relocating introduce many challenges like to let go our belongings and to confront a very different living situation. Anything worth doing will have some form of anxiety attached to it. It is human nature to resist accepting the fact that as we age, we become less physically capable of taking care of some of the everyday tasks that used to be so easy to do. Having to accept a lifestyle change to accommodate this can be emotionally difficult and depressing because it is seen as a loss of independence. Separation from one’s lifelong home is a loss and should be treated as such. Turning to friends and family in a time of grief is common when one experiences a loss, so imparting a sense of family among residents and staff has proven quite comforting for those suffering the distress of moving. Unfortunately, those seniors who delay changing their lifestyle to accommodate their needs end up becoming even less independent, relying on family and friends to do what they are no longer able to do.

Moving into a retirement residence can be an intimidating life change. The upside is that most retirement communities recognize this apprehension and do their best to lessen the emotional stress that comes with a move. When seniors see the change after they move into a residence (busy with their peers and entertained year round), they find they are much happier than they expected to be. Living in a retirement community can help alleviate boredom, loneliness and time to worry. A happier life is a healthier life. As a home transition specialist, I will assist in easing a seemingly stressful lifestyle change to make a smooth and stress-free transition for many years of good living.

Comme tout changement important dans la vie, se marier, avoir des enfants, changer d’emploi, changer de domicile soulève beaucoup de questions relatives à l’inconnu. Qu’est-ce que l’avenir nous réserve?  Déménager soulève plusieurs défis tels que laisser aller certains de nos objets et se préparer à un style de vie très différent. Peu importe ce que vous faites… il y aura de l’anxiété. C’est la nature humaine que de s’opposer et de résister aux changements. Un jour, nos capacités physiques diminuent et nous empêchent de faire tout ce dont nous avions l’habitude de faire aisément. Lorsqu’un changement de style de vie est nécessaire, c’est difficile émotionnellement et cela peut entraîner une humeur dépressive due à la perte d’autonomie et d’indépendance. Quitter l’endroit où nous avons vécu des décennies doit être traité comme un deuil. Se tourner vers nos amis et notre famille peut être réconfortant, mais en parler avec d’autres résidents qui ont vécu le même deuil peut nous rassurer et créer des liens importants. Malheureusement, les gens qui attendent trop longtemps avant de changer de domicile et de modifier leur style de vie adapté à leur nouveaux besoins et capacités diminuées, perdent leur autonomie beaucoup plus rapidement et deviennent dépendants des membres de leur famille pour tout ce qu’ils ne sont plus capable de faire.

Emménager dans une résidence pour personnes âgées peut être un changement intimidant. La majorité des résidence reconnaissent l’appréhension des nouveaux résidents et ils font leur possible pour faciliter la transition en essayant de réduire le stress émotionnel. Quelques temps après, il est fréquent que les personnes âgées réalisent qu’elles sont plus heureuses qu’elles pensaient l’être depuis qu’elles sont à la résidence. Elles socialisent plus et participent à plusieurs activités. Vivre dans une communauté, dans une résidence, peut aider à combattre l’ennui, la solitude et l’anxiété. Une vie plus heureuse est une vie en meilleure santé. Comme spécialiste en relocation, je vais vous assister pour rendre votre transition la plus simple et la moins stressante possible, afin que vous puissiez avoir le meilleur début pour votre nouveau segment de vie.


Life is beautiful! – La vie est merveilleuse!

After my husband joined the military, I had to learn how to live with a lot of “unknowns”, such as not knowing when I’d hear from him, when he’d come home or when and where we’d move next. That’s when I first started the de-cluttering process. I had plenty of evenings alone to think and knew that the next move could happen any time so I had to be ready.

Military life has brought us to relocate frequently and I’ve become quite the expert at decluttering and downsizing. I’ve tried it all and would love to share my knowledge with you. To broaden my knowledge, I’ve also taken a course in Home Staging.

Frequent military relocations also come with new opportunities, new friends, and most importantly, new communities and a support system. Other military spouses have come through for me, helped with my boys and cheered me up when I was overwhelmed. If you are looking to relocate to a residence, integrating yourself into your new community is fundamental.

In short, I have learned that life is pretty amazing and beautiful even through daily struggles and challenges. Half the battle is how you approach your challenge. For smooth sailing, surround yourself with the right support.

Ma deuxième leçon, après que mon conjoint se soit enrollé, a été d’apprendre à vivre avec l’insécurité, ne sachant pas quand il pourrait téléphoner et encore moins, venir faire un tour à la maison. La possibilité de déménager étant dans l’air, mais ne sachant guère quand ou vers quel endroit. J’ai donc utilisé ces longues soirées seules à passer à travers mes livres d’université, puis le bricolage…. C’était mes premiers pas dans l’apprentissage du désencombrement. La vie militaire m’a incité à déménager fréquemment et je suis rendue habile à désencombrer et habituée à la relocation. J’ai tout expérimenté et maintenant je désire partager mes connaissances avec  vous. J’habite maintenant Ottawa et j’ai décidé de me spécialiser encore plus en suivant une formation en « Home staging ».

Être une famille de militaire amène plusieurs défis mais aussi beaucoup un sens de la communauté extraordinaire. Chaque fois que nous sommes arrivés dans une nouvelle ville, nous nous sommes fait de nouveaux amis qui sont venus m’aider lorsque j’en avais le plus besoin. J’ai compris comment l’amitié et le sens de la communauté est important. Malgré l’angoisse qui précède une relocation, aujourd’hui je suis bien et je sais que je le serai tant que je m’intégrerai à ma nouvelle communauté. Si vous déménagez en résidence, intégrez-vous le plus rapidement possible à votre nouvelle communauté car cela en vaut vraiment la peine.

Brièvement, j’ai appris dans les 10 dernières années, que je suis capable de faire des choses extraordinaire et que la vie est merveilleuse et belle malgré les difficultés sporadiques.


Life is full of surprises! – La vie déborde de surprises!

For his first 3 years of military service, my husband was pretty much gone all the time… With two boys and a house, I quickly came to the conclusion that everything fell on my lap and I was on double duty. You should have seen me the first time I had to catch a rodent in the house. It was just a few days after he had left and I found myself jumping on a chair but then realized that I was in charge and had to take care of this! My first thought was to grab a bucket and try to catch it. Well that in itself was hilarious but then I thought to myself, what am I going to do with it once it’s under the bucket? How could I grab the rat? What would I do with it? Should I kill it or release it outside? Well, needless to say, that was quite an experience. Little did I know that 3 years later, our family would have three pet rats and I took great pleasure in playing with them.

Life is not always easy. Sometimes it’s difficult and these are usually times when we end up doing things out of necessity and not as we could ever have planned to.  Having to downsize and to relocate is one of those. Always keep in mind that even though this transition is difficult, people usually realize a few months down the road that it was for the best.

La vie déborde de surprises!

Lorsque mon époux a joint les Forces, il a été absent la majorité du temps pendant presque 3 ans. À l’époque j’avais 2 garçons (2 ans et 6 ans) et une maison… j’ai rapidement compris que je devais maintenant prendre en charge mes tâches et celles de mon époux. Vous auriez dû me voir quelques jours après son départ lorsqu’un rat est entré au sous-sol… dans la salle de jeu des enfants… J’ai grimpé sur une chaise avant de réaliser que c’était maintenant à moi d’attraper ce rongeur. J’ai pris un sceau et essayé d’attraper la bestiole au milieu des jouets… c’était hilarant !!!  Mais une fois le rat sous la chaudière, que faire ? Comment attraper le rat sans qu’il s’enfui à nouveau et encore pire…. Sans le toucher ! Dois-je le tuer ou le ramener dehors ? Oh mon Dieu, ce fut tout une expérience. Pouvez-vous imaginer que 3 ans plus tard, nous avions 3 rats de compagnie que je laissais libres dans la maison et que l’ensemble de la famille avait du plaisir avec !!!

La vie nous positionne dans des situations impossibles, imprévues et non désirées, mais notre nature humaine nous pousse à réussir ces épreuves et à en sortir grandi. Avoir à déménager est une de ces épreuves et c’est possible de passer à travers et de se rendre compte par la suite, que c’était pour le mieux.


Why it’s important to have someone help you – Pourquoi l’accompagnement est-it important?

Moving from a large home full of your belongings to a smaller place can be tricky.  It’s easy to say “just get rid of that stuff”, but to actually do it is much harder. Unfortunately, many people downsize or relocate not by choice but because they have to. It’s natural to feel uncomfortable and afraid or anxious. It’s a little like trying to lose weight or to start a new fitness program. Without the right support, it’s easy to lose motivation and sometimes, the only way to get results is with the help of a coach. You don’t have to do this alone!

Downsizing can be stressful, but with the right kind of help it can become an experience you wish you would have done sooner. Relocation professionals, who are skilled on the emotional and practical aspect of the move, will off-load tasks and this will free up some time for you to concentrate on other important aspects of moving.

Deciding what to do with your things, whether it’s to sell, donate, or throw away is stressful, time consuming and emotionally draining. It’s easier to choose what you absolutely want to keep and outsource the “estate sale” task. Funds from the estate sale can be used to buy things that are more appropriate for your new place.

Pourquoi l’accompagnement est important?

Déménager d’une grosse maison vers un condo ou encore d’un appartement vers une résidence n’est pas une étape évidente dans la vie. Il est facile de dire « Fais juste te débarrasser de ces choses-là » mais le faire est extrêmement plus difficile. Malheureusement, plusieurs personnes attendent trop longtemps et se retrouvent dans une situation où ils ne déménagent plus par choix, mais parcequ’ils sont forcés de le faire. C’est tout à fait naturel de se sentir inconfortable et angoissé face à un déménagement. Tout comme perdre du poids ou commencer un programme d’exercice, il est facile de perdre notre motivation. Souvent, nous avons besoin d’un entraineur pour obtenir des résultats. Vous n’avez pas à entreprendre vos démarches de relocation seul.

Les professionnels de la relocation vont vous décharger de certaines tâches, ce qui vous permettra de vous concentrer sur d’autres aspects importants de votre déménagement. Ils sont habilles à gérer les relocations, tant sur le plan émotionnel que « pratico pratique ». Être conseillé et supporté peut rendre un changement de domicile beaucoup plus simple. Déménager dans une habitation plus petite peut être « l’enfer » mais bien accompagné, ça peut devenir une expérience dont vous souhaiteriez avoir accompli avant. Pas besoin de tout faire par vous-même ou d’imposer cela à des membres de votre famille qui sont déjà surchargés avec leur vie, vous pouvez bénéficier de l’expérience et de la disponibilité de professionnels. Commencez dès aujourd’hui en me contactant pour réserver votre consultation gratuite.

Choisir ce que nous allons faire de nos biens, que ce soit les donner, les vendre, les jeter ou les apporter avec nous est un moment stressant qui prend beaucoup de temps et d’énergie. Il est plus facile de se mettre à la tâche en commençant par choisir ce que nous voulons absolument garder. Vous pouvez ensuite réduire votre fardeau en engageant des professionnels de la relocation et/ou de la vente de bien. Le plus d’argent vous amasserez en vendant vos biens, plus vous pourrez vous acheter d’items proportionnés à votre nouveau domicile.


5 Steps to Downsizing

  • Think about it
    While we think about it for years, we never act on it until it’s too late and mandated as opposed to by choice. Whether it’s space or stuff, it’s time to acknowledge and recognize that less is more.
  • Take the decision and commit to it
    The hardest, yet most empowering part is to make a decision of your own will. Once you’ve made a decision, it sets the tone to what needs to happen next.
  • Next Steps
    Pick a target date for your move, keeping in mind how long you need or want to sort through your life long belongings. This is where I can be a great asset. I can help by providing a personalized and detailed plan for you and also provide referrals.
  • Sort and de-clutter
    This step can either be a nightmare or a fun, exciting and freeing process. The thought of doing this alone can be daunting so ask family and friends to help or call me, to book your free consultation.
  • Minor repairs and Homestaging of Property
    The goal is not to decorate your property, but to create an attractive and generally appealing home that will attract a wider spectrum of potential buyers. Abode Staging will improve the interior and exterior appearance of your home and know that a homestaged property by Abode Staging generally sells faster and for a much higher price.

  • Considérer la possibilité de changer de domicile
    Il est facile de reporter notre réflexion et notre prise de décision pour plusieurs raisons. Malheureusement certaines personnes reportent pendant plusieurs années et finissent par avoir des ennuis de santé avant d’avoir pris leur décision. Ces cas se règlent générallement par des mandats d’incapacité. Que ce soit pour une question d’espace ou de quantité d’objet, il est temps de faire face à la réalité et de reconnaitre que moins vaut souvent plus.
  • Prendre la décision et s’engager (trouver un nouveau domicile)
    Le fait de vous engager par vous-même vous procure la liberté de choisir votre nouveau domicile et environnement. Non seulement vous gardez le contrôle de votre vie, mais vous déterminez le rythme des étapes qui suivent.
  • Établir votre plan d’action
    Choisissez votre nouveau domicile et déterminez la date de déménagement, tout en considérant le temps que vous pensez avoir besoin pour trier et désencombrer. Vous avez beaucoup de choses à coordonner pour réaliser votre nouveau projet. Je peux vous aider en établissant un plan personnalisé adapté à vos besoins.
  • Trier et désencombrer
    Cette étape peut vous sembler insurmontable, car vous devez faire le deuil de certains biens. Elle peut se transformer en une expérience agréable qui vous procurera un grand sentiment de liberté. Téléphonez-moi pour céduler votre consultation gratuite et sans engagement de votre part.
  • Faire les petits travaux et mettre la maison en valeur
    Il est important de se fier aux conseils d’expert, car le but de cette étape n’est pas de décorer votre maison, mais bien de mettre en valeur ses meilleurs atouts afin d’attirer une variété d’acheteurs potentiels. Une maison mise en valeur par Abode Staging se vend plus rapidement et à un prix plus élevé.

Who is the owner Valerie? Qui est Valérie?

I’m from Boucherville, which is a city on the South Shore of Montreal. I am a military wife and mother of two wonderful boys. The military life has brought me to relocate quite frequently and I am very used to the decluttering and downsizing process. I’ve tried it all and I’m want to share my knowledge with you.

I currently live in the Ottawa and I have decided to further explore the downsizing process. I have taken a course in “Home staging and Senior relocation management”. Since my kids are now teenagers and I have a bit more time on my hands, I have launched my own company, “Abode Staging” and am ready to work and share my knowledge with whomever might need my services.

I am always ready for a new challenge and entrepreneurship is a huge one!
Ever since my teenage years, I’ve always tried new things that all gravitated around helping others and I’ve been quite successful at it. This is the foundation of my new company, helping others by understanding their needs and guiding them in the process of downsizing and decluttering during a home transition, which is usually overwhelming.
Next week, I will go deeper in the the downsizing process. Have a wonderful week.

Bonjour, Je suis une fille de Boucherville, épouse d’un militaire et mère de 2 garçons. La vie m’a ainsi amenée à me déplacer de ville en ville et de pratiquer le désencombrement fréquemment. Eh oui, j’ai eu l’occasion de mettre à l’épreuve les conseils que j’ai l’intention de partager avec vous, et ce, plusieurs fois.

J’habite maintenant notre capitale nationale (Ottawa) et j’ai décidé de me spécialiser encore plus en suivant des cours de homestaging et de Relocation des personnes âgées. Les enfants maintenant à l’adolescence… j’en profite pour lancer ma compagnie Abode Staging afin de partager mon savoir avec ceux qui en ont besoin.

Je me suis toujours lancé dans tout plein d’aventures, et croyez-moi, celle de l’entreprenariat en est une de taille. Je pourrais résumer mon expérience en disant que depuis mon adolescence, j’ai toujours trouvé le moyen d’aider autrui avec succès. C’est pour cela que mon entreprise est basée sur la relation d’aide et sur mes facultés à comprendre la situation particulière dans laquelle se trouvent les personnes qui doivent déménager vers une habitation plus petite.

La semaine prochaine je vous parlerai du processus de « downsizing », c’est-à-dire quelles sont les étapes à suivre généralement. Sur ce, bonne semaine.